02-15-2017, 08:06 AM
General behaviour of people when gather to mourn someone's death after third day of death seems more customary than any serious note in Jaipur and other parts of the country where this ritual is followed ardently.
To my surprise, this assemblage serve no genuine purpose but routine conglomeration of friends and relatives to discuss general issues. People are keeping so busy with their routine that at times they don't make it to such gatherings.
May be we find an alternate solution to this customary note. The close relatives are the real sufferers to the situation risen out of demise and they actually feel the real pinch. Although the deceased is no more available physically to measure the level of despair of attendee 's physical presence, still it is formal routine of them to show their physical presence, solidarity & concern to the deceased.The society seems more concerned about the deceased after demise of the person.
It is something like someone is more concerned about parents after they leave the world than when they actually existed. We are a lot of hypocrites to be there merely to show our physical presence rather than actual concern for the deceased. My mind still surround my thoughts to find a solution to this particular situation coming our way everyday. May be we find some solution to this seemingly easy but tough question. The society by and large follow what is shown to them.
The customs and rituals which don't vibe well with the changed face of the time should either be curtailed or dismissed for not being pertinent to the present world. People are occupied today grossly into their business and other commitments and time is a big issue for every working individual.
To shelve time for such third day congregation in today 's world in particular to accommodate is not only difficult but also undesirable. We can show our deep gratitude towards departed soul by planting a tree in the name of them and nurture it through life . If we are blessed enough economically, we must shoulder responsibility of a poor's education.
By the name of departed soul, we can create schemes helping helpless and downtrodden people. This will be our real tribute to departed soul and it will establish his remembrance permanently in our memory for a longer run rather than a customary show of gratitude.
We can arrange religious sermon/bhajans to pay homage to the departed soul on next public holiday. It would be convenient for majority of people to participate and be part of final tribute to someone close.
To my surprise, this assemblage serve no genuine purpose but routine conglomeration of friends and relatives to discuss general issues. People are keeping so busy with their routine that at times they don't make it to such gatherings.
May be we find an alternate solution to this customary note. The close relatives are the real sufferers to the situation risen out of demise and they actually feel the real pinch. Although the deceased is no more available physically to measure the level of despair of attendee 's physical presence, still it is formal routine of them to show their physical presence, solidarity & concern to the deceased.The society seems more concerned about the deceased after demise of the person.
It is something like someone is more concerned about parents after they leave the world than when they actually existed. We are a lot of hypocrites to be there merely to show our physical presence rather than actual concern for the deceased. My mind still surround my thoughts to find a solution to this particular situation coming our way everyday. May be we find some solution to this seemingly easy but tough question. The society by and large follow what is shown to them.
The customs and rituals which don't vibe well with the changed face of the time should either be curtailed or dismissed for not being pertinent to the present world. People are occupied today grossly into their business and other commitments and time is a big issue for every working individual.
To shelve time for such third day congregation in today 's world in particular to accommodate is not only difficult but also undesirable. We can show our deep gratitude towards departed soul by planting a tree in the name of them and nurture it through life . If we are blessed enough economically, we must shoulder responsibility of a poor's education.
By the name of departed soul, we can create schemes helping helpless and downtrodden people. This will be our real tribute to departed soul and it will establish his remembrance permanently in our memory for a longer run rather than a customary show of gratitude.
We can arrange religious sermon/bhajans to pay homage to the departed soul on next public holiday. It would be convenient for majority of people to participate and be part of final tribute to someone close.